Marriage counselor, Nike Folagbade has dished out life-changing advice to couples.
In a lengthy Instagram post, the writer advised couples to discover their true identity beyond their marriage.
According to her, if the enemy knows that their marriage and spouse are idols for them, he will attack it just so they can lose their direction and power in life.
Going further, Nike Folagbade advised couples not to allow the enemy to make them chase the wrong things due to temporary issues in their marriage.
The relationship coach also noted that they should learn to stand firm in God and life if their marriage goes through challenges or if their partner ignores them for a while.
In her word;
“Who are you without your marriage?
Since society has placed so extreme value on getting married, it is expected that even when your marriage is not working or you’re constantly abused, you are to stay put in the marriage.😊
With this understanding, many people find themselves doing charms and attractions formula to get/stay married or even do desperate things like getting pregnant, fighting for attention, etc.🤔
If your husband denies you sex for 2 months, would it make you lose your dignity to strange men outside?😞
If your wife doesn’t give you attention, would it make you chase other women?🤒
If you have misunderstandings frequently, would it make you see yourself as worthless and invisible?😕
If the enemy knows that marriage and your spouse are idols for you, don’t you think he will attack it just so you can lose your direction and power in life?😠
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying your marriage is not a priority, I’m trying to uncover who you are outside of that marriage.
Can you still stand firm in God and life if your marriage goes through challenges or if your partner ignores you for a while?😌
Do you see your worth, beauty, value, goodness, and relevance even if your marriage is temporarily not working?😷
The answer to this question will show you why you are always moody, withdrawn, depressed, unstable, and disgusted when challenges arise in the home.
Let us keep our eyes fixed on Jesus, on whom our faith depends from beginning to end-Hebrews 12:2a GNB
I came to remind you that the secret to hosting God’s presence in your home starts with knowing who you are and whose you are because even in the storm, His peace and joy should be your anchor and His wisdom should be your weapon.
Don’t allow the enemy to make you chase the wrong things due to temporary issues. Don’t lose your dignity because of negative words spoken by an insecure soul. You’re more than that storm and this month, I’ll be sharing more on IDENTITY because it has the secret to winning in any situation without losing yourself.
Now answer this, who are you even if your marriage takes another turn or if you’re currently in a storm seeking help?🤔”
See her post below;